On my murdered daughter's birthday, a request

Last week's terror bombings that took the life of Jerusalem teen Aryeh Schupak, and, a few days later, of Tadese Tashume Ben-Ma’ada, 50, father of six, who succumbed to his wounds on November 26, 2022, jolted the nation. 

They also stirred up the horror right beneath the surface of my soul. Horror that has lingered there since 2001, when my daughter Malki was murdered in the Jerusalem Sbarro pizzeria bombing on a hot, summer's afternoon. 

Like the twin bus-stop bombings of last week, the 10 kg bomb that destroyed Sbarro was also packed with nails to maximize the casualties it would inflict. And the Sbarro bomb's target was also a site that children, specifically, would be frequenting at that hour.

A Jerusalem bus stop, one of the two attacked on

November 23, 2022 [Image Source]

Now another innocent Jewish teen - kind, generous, earnest, industrious full of dreams and plans like our child - did not return to his parents.

When I say my heart goes out to his family, those are not just formulaic words. I really do know what they are enduring.

Malki would have celebrated her 37th birthday today, November 27, 2022, if not for that evil act of Hamas operative, Ahlam Tamimi. 

But unlike the terrorists who murdered Aryeh and Ben-Ma'ada, Ahlam Tamimi's whereabouts are known to all. She lives free and protected by Jordan's King Abdullah II. She was indicted by the United States Department of Justice in 2013. Her extradition from Jordan was subsequently demanded under a 1995 treaty signed and ratified by both countries. The U.S. has explicitly deemed that treaty valid despite Jordan's years-late insistence to the contrary.

But there the U.S.'s pursuit of justice for our Malki - a U.S. citizen - has come to a screeching halt.

The very same administration that declared on November 23, 2022, that "We condemn unequivocally the acts of terror overnight in Jerusalem. The United States has offered all appropriate assistance to the Government of Israel as it investigates the attack and works to bring the perpetrators to justice" is doing nothing, I repeat nothing, to bring the fugitive Sbarro perpetrator, Ahlam Tamimi, to justice. 

She has boasted of murdering fifteen men, women and children in the bombing she orchestrated at Sbarro but remains free as a lark.

My husband and I have been struggling since early-2012 to garner attention for our fight. The persistent silence and indifference that have met our pleas is not something we could have anticipated. It crosses all religious, political and geographic lines and is utterly confounding.

But without a doubt, the most disconcerting has been the silence and indifference of American Jewish activists, leaders, politicians and organization heads who claim to be concerned with causes precisely like ours: justice for Jewish victims. 

Many have close personal relationships with Jordan's ruler, Abdullah, often to the absurd point of adulation. His country's blatant anti-Semitism doesn't faze them.

Their hypocrisy has been a bitter pill for us to swallow.

If you too are incensed by this outrage, and are in a position to promote our cause, we are currently preparing a campaign where your help can be instrumental. Please contact us by email at thisongoingwar@gmail.com

Even if you feel you cannot take part, please do consider signing our petition addressed to the U.S. Secretary of State (you do not need to be an American to sign it): change.org/ExtraditeTamimi

Support group musings

Some thoughts below about a recent post on the Facebook page of the FamilieSCN2A Foundation - an online support group for parents of children with that genetic mutation. It's the one my daughter Haya has. 

Members of the group come from all over: Argentina, Australia, Austria, Belgium, Brazil, Canada, Chile, China, Colombia, Czechia, Denmark, Finland, France, Germany, Greece, Iceland, India, Ireland, Israel, Italy, Luxembourg, Malaysia, Netherlands, Norway, Poland, Portugal, Scotland, Serbia, Spain, Sweden, Turkey, UK, USA, United Arab Emirates, Venezuela. And probably more.

It was written by Carla Forbes, one of the group's administrators, and is about the FamilieSCN2A logo and the colors that feature so prominently.

This is what the SCN2A support group is all about and this is why the following recent post there grabbed my attention. 

First, to clarify: I only peruse the page occasionally. The posts aren't usually relevant to me as most of the children are both younger and higher functioning than Haya. Hence many of the posts just depress me. 

But all convey the sense that these parents are utterly devoted to their children and determined to provide them with every available therapy and treatment to improve the quality of their lives.

Then this week, while I was up in the wee hours caring for Haya, I read the post I mentioned. It was exceptional, jarring and disappointing - to me at least:

Well... we found a host family in Houston (a hour and 45 mins from us) that is interested in having Alyssa live with them full time. We meet them Saturday.  This is the hardest and loneliest decision we have ever made. No one gets it and not many have gone down this road..... its a hard road y'all. Praying this is the right fit but if not, we will keep looking.

Several readers offered supportive comments and another few "liked" it. I thought a loud "ouch" to myself.  

But then I noted that neither of the site's administrators responded, as they usually do. Their silence seemed telling. This page was obviously not the right venue for news of this sort. 

Here below is my daughter Haya at her latest Monday Hydro with Mom session. 

Next week the pool will be closed for repairs. So we will be relegated to the large, cold public pool nearby. 

Why have I not bought myself a wetsuit like Haya's yet?!